A Marriage After His Heart

My journey and life unscripted as I transition from the role of a single mom living for God to a newlywed trying my best at blending and expanding my family, all while pursing a marriage after God and my husband's heart. Join us on this journey!

Friday, February 27, 2009

Back To The Home Front!!


Lil Miss Thomas @ 33wks

Many of you know that I went back to work through a small temporary assignment. While I had a great time being around other people and knowing that I was contributing to our household expenses helping my husband while we get settled back on our feet, I can say with gladness that today is my last day and I am ready to go home.

Before I ever had the opportunity to stay at home, I was constantly on the go as a single mamma, career woman. My house really had no order, and it was simply a house. I desired a home. When I first became pregnant and had to come home, it was an adjustment for me because it was clearly say it wasn't anything I was used to or familiar with. I wrote in these posts here and here that I just felt frustrated and out of touch. Secretly I longed to go back to work. I was used to making money and I hated to see my husband carry an unexpectedly large burden knowing we were unprepared. So imagine my satisfaction when I got a call to be a receptionist for 6 weeks at a state agency. It was easy so it seemed.

Well then my whole scheduled changed. Instead of getting the girls up and out and returning home after maybe a restless night to catch up on rest, or setting a schedule to have dinner done by the time my family came home; my days became more or less a mad dash to get everyone out the door so that I could make a 30 minute commute to work.

My evenings would end up being tiresome from just being stuck in traffic, trying to run home at least by 6pm, start dinner, have devotion, homework time, pack stuff for the next day, and then off to bed to do it all over. I started to see that I was out of sync from my former working days.

When my hubs picked up a second job, it became being a single mom all over again. Laundry was piling up, dinner ended up being quick and less homemade, more like cereal or quick throw together in a hurry meals. And mornings were just stressful.

I say all this to make this one point. I miss being at home. I now understand so much what my presence means. We need order and momma aint been around to provide it. So with all that being said I have learned so much and I can't wait until I can retreat to the sanctuary of my little humble abode!

Oh yeah, I mentioned in Monday's post that we had video of the sonogram. I think I got it posted, it may or may not work. I wish they could show these at every abortion clinic across the world, maybe then confused young women would change their minds. It's kinda long but you can watch at your own risk.

Have a wonderful weekend. I am off to try Shelia's chore chart from To Love Honor and Vacuum!

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

From My Husband's Point of View

Yesterday morning while reading my comments on my post concerning our baby girl, we received what at the moment seemed as a scathing comment . I along with my husband was floored that we even came across as being ungrateful about our baby girl and he was going to post a comment that I later asked him to allow me to use today as a post. However, as the day wore on and as I had time to really sit and reflect on why I was still allowing it to bother me, I realized something. I realized that my anger was unjustified, and unwarranted. Not because I shouldn't care about what people say about me or my blog,especially when I don't know who they are or can't defend myself to them as we all so like to do, but because I am a person who doesn't like to be mis-interpreted or misunderstood. My only desire is that I want to always display the love of Christ. I am growing in my walk with him. I am young in my experience with him, and as I display the child-like characteristics that he instructs me too, I will always be ever learning and humble about my lack of knowledge during my walk with him. And although I "don't have to" I feel led to explain to the many who could have misread my post as uncaring or unselfish, and I thank the Anonymous commenter for speaking her peace and giving me a chance to reflect on how I express my heart as I always want to express it in a manner that glorifies God. I didn't mean to say so much, because I am now going to post my husbands thoughts on our unselfish desire to have a son.


To The Anonymous Reader from Mr. Thomas
The Bible states that in all thy getting get an understanding; so I personally feel lead to explain some things in “Love” so that others will be able understand the desire that we have as a family and still have. I am a husband first and the faithful loving father of 4 beautiful young girls who have a very special place in my heart. One of my desires as a Saved man of God is to some day bring up a young man in the Lord.

A little about my testimony, my mother and father were told that my dad could not have children do to health reasons. But due to their faith in God I am here today. Even after that, my mother almost died to have me because I was almost 10 lbs and breech and the doctors told her that one of us would die, but again through her faith in God's miracle we both made it and I am here today. I am the only son that my father had; and it was a miracle of God that I was born, so my outlook on pregnancy and the life of a new born is not that of selfishness, or ungratefulness as I am a walking miracle. Our motive and desire as a family was not selfish or ungrateful; my family was very excited when we found out that we were expecting. The tears of joy came down our faces because we understood the love that we will be able to render to our child and we conceived on the very first try.

Believe me ,I understand that not all children are born healthy mentally or physically do to reason of many circumstances, As I said before my parent’s were told that my dad could not father children, but my older brother from a previous marriage was born with a birth defect, he died as a teen due to his heart defect, after being told he wouldn’t make it past 2yrs old, so trust me when I say I understand the beauty and preciousness of life. Also because I have worked as a Mental Health Professional for over 7 years; helping many who are mentally & physically challenged I know and understand to be grateful for the blessings of a healthy child.

My desire for a son is special to me, why? It’s a blessing to see a man father his son in general and become active in his son’s life, but it becomes more touching to me when you see a man raise his son in the fear of God and the love of God. Often times I picture myself playing catch with my son, or taking him fishing and going to a football ,or baseball game leaving him lasting memories that will have a lasting impact on his life. I desire to give my son those things that I didn’t have as a child.
I have mentored many young men and little boys and I would occasionally asked them who would they like to be when they grow up and many would mention a star athlete or a star musical singer, but rarely do I hear “Dad” which I find so distressing, so for me to have the opportunity to ask God about having a son for His behalf, regarding myself as his faithful, humble servant isn’t so selfish; a man desiring a son is blessing from God.
To have that desire, and then get your hopes up because you know God promised you this, only to find out that it’s not time for you yet is somewhat disappointing on the immediate front, but to know that God will grant me the desires of my heart in HIS time is precious because God loves His children enough allows me the ability to cast down the disappointment and cling to the joy of knowing that God blessed me to have the miracle of having a child at all. So if we seemed ungrateful for our tears ( which only lasted a few seconds) please forgive us. It was not our intentions to display a spirit of ungratefulness to God's blessings, but our human side got the better of us for a brief moment. Thank you for your honesty and God Bless You!!! Mark Thomas

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

A Few Good Deals

Today is I-Hop's annual National Pancake Day and in usual fashion they are giving away a free short stack of pancakes to everyone from 7am-10pm. We did this last year and the girls loved it. There was no need to order any side items because they were full from the "grown up " pancakes. All they ask is that you consider making a donation to the Children's Miracle Network or other local charity. Being that Children's Miracle Network, and St. Jude are my two favorite charities I jump at the chance to support, also I don't have to cook tonight and since Mark will be at work the girls and I get to go out for some mommy daughter bonding time. Did I mention that they LOVE pancakes! LOL! You can find out more about this one day only deal here.


Also, I snagged huge deals at the Goody's Store Closing Sale this weekend. I didn't purchase anything off of the shelves ( the deals weren't as good as they could have been), but I did snag a good deal on a bunch of usable return items. They had a "make an offer sale" and I got an entire large shopping bag of items for only 2$! They are selling everything, hangers, mesh shopping bags, display cases, shelves even their store cleaning equipment ( or at least the store in my area was). This Friday is their last day and I heard through the grapevine that they will have the liquidators in the store and they will be marking items left down to 95% off after 4pm. So if you have a Goody's in your area and think its worth a shot to see if the mark-downs will actually be reflective of a store that is going out of business and wants to sell everything rather than take a loss, then go on by Friday and see what Goody's has to offer.
Crystal over at Money Saving Mom posted this yesterday about Quiznos is giving away a free sub sandwich to the first one million people who register here. From what I was able to determine, you should be able to sign up every adult in your home to receive a free sub sandwich coupon. I signed the hubs and I up and we both got a coupon delivered to our inbox for a free sub. This will make for a really nice lunch date treat.

Have a wonderful day and stay blessed and encouraged!

Monday, February 23, 2009

Little Miss Thomas Is Now A Reality!

lil miss thomas first pic

Today I had the luxury of taking advantage of a really cool study at the University School/Hospital where I used to work. Basically they strapped monitors on my belly and put this non-evasive instrument on my belly above baby's head and for 20 minutes or so played these sounds that only baby can hear. The test measures brain wave activity and the baby's response to the noises and then responses to complete silence. Cool thing is I have it on video in 4D and I must say I am amazed by the marvels of modern medicine. The even more cool thing was that before we started the testing, the nurses and I had a fun time with the 3D ultra sound machine. The baby cooperated so well that they asked me if they keep going because they very rarely get to practice on a mother who's baby is fully cooperative. That was the coolest thing in the world to me. I am so used to the regular black and white ultrasounds where I have to nod and guess I know what they are showing me, all the while praying that I could figure out what blots are what and what lines are who. So we found out for sure undeniably that we have a beautiful baby girl on the way. And I'm not just showing a mother's prejudice she is beautiful.

I think having this experience today really made her feel real. Not that she didn't before, but to have already seen her and to see her in action moving, twisting, yawning, smiling, putting her foot in her mouth, and even pouting was just surreal. I often wonder what's going on in my belly as she is quite active, now all I have to do is pop in a video and watch her in action. I can't wait to show the girls, this will be over the top for them and I can already see how much she looks like her dad. I only posted on pic but I have two rolls of sonogram pictures, I just snapped a picture of one of my favorites I may try to scan a couple tonight to see if they come out better. I wish I could post some of the video, but it is read only and I can't share it or download it but I can most certainly enjoy it. She already weighs about 5.5lbs and we still have a few more weeks to go!

On a different note, my temporary assignment ends on Friday and honestly I can't wait to return home. I was talking to Mark today and told him that I can tell the balance and order of our home is off. I have so much I want to do to create a sanctuary of peace and organization. Right now chaos and disorganization seem to be taking over. I can tell that the chemistry is off, even though I was sick most of the time there was more balance there than it is now. I have been reading these series of posts by my good friend Lylah. I just love her posts on The Simple Home and Creating a Sanctuary. It has been helpful to me to have that reminder that my sanctuary starts from inside my heart and spirit and for me to make an honest effort and commitment to keep my spirit focused on God's idea for my home's heart and center.

Remember to stay blessed and encouraged. Until next time!