A Marriage After His Heart

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Tuesday, December 9, 2008

The Bondage of Materialism During This Economic Famine

Last year I wrote this post during this season due to all the massive toy recalls and child related deaths. This year things are different. Child mortality related to toy recalls are not taking over news headlines, but the recent death of a Wal-Mart employee, the shooting at Toys-R-Us and this economic famine that we are facing prompted me to re-post with a little tweaking. Although there may be situational differences, the premise of seasonal greed and guilt is still the same base. Parents who are struggling overwhelmingly just to provide the bare necessities are still finding it difficult to accept that Christmas present may have to be very different from Christmas past. One thing does remain the same, even though we are in a great recession, materialism still has many in bondage.

As I sit and shudder of the thought of what type of bondage this time of year brings upon parents, and any other adult seeking to soothe the materialistic desire of a child by going into debt, not showing Christian stewardship to the less fortunate, greed, envy, covetousness and many other ungodly abominations, I wonder if God allows things like this to happen to shake our attention back to the reason for this season? Is he trying to let this country, (which was founded on spiritual principals and a need to worship God without reproof) know that he is not at all pleased with how we are creating generation after generation of materialistic children who covet everything they see?

Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying that we should not buy our children toys and presents and shower them with love, I am simply saying that everything that we do for our children should empower them spiritually, educationally and naturally and not the instant gratification of playing with the next hot thing or to be bound by what I call the "Gotta Have, or Must Have spirit. "

We have a God given responsibility to evoke and teach our children a sense of appreciation for gifts, a gratefulness of receiving something new, we should teach them to be good stewards of the blessings they receive and most importantly that any gift they receive is a blessing from God not an expectation!I think it is so sad when I see children put a guilt trip on their parents for not having the newest toy. It hurts me to see the young and innocent equate love with gifts before they are even old enough to hold a conversation. It saddens me even more when parents are bound by their children's covetousness , greed and desire for materialism... If I am burdened about it, how is God feeling about it?? He must be so sad, so frustrated, so furious.....

I had to cry out to God in this area too.... Last year I had to sit down and accept the brutally honest truth that I have allowed my children to become entangled in the expectation of materialism, and I have allowed a seed of ungratefulness and greed to be planted in their hearts because they covet every new toy that is introduced. At one while every conversation would include "Mommy I want, or Mommy can you buy me?" One of my children even knew my paydays and would say when you get paid on this day can we go to the store? I knew then that my weakness as a single mother was trying to make up for the absence of the father figure by buying gifts and always buying things they wanted.

I had to ask God and my children for forgiveness because this is not what mothering is all about, and was very unpleasing to God.I (we) have a responsibility to dig out this seed before its roots anchor and plant seeds of gratefulness, and appreciation, and self worth even when you don't have what everyone else has. I

If you are guilty of this, don't let the devil beat you over the head with condemnation, simply ask God to forgive you for this, and to give you wisdom on how to buy those things that are desired by your children. Make sure that every toy or game you buy can be nurturing, and serve as practical applications and learning.

With God's help, we can do this. We don't have to raise a generation of children who's favorite words are I want or can I have? We can raise children who are selfless, who want to be good stewards and who realizes that every thing given to us above that which we need is an extra blessing from God. We can watch the news about dangerous toys and feel good in our soul that we don't have to fear for our children in this area. I encourage you to sit down with your children and inform them of what is going on around during these economic slow downs. Show them the signs of "men pleasers", and of men being lovers of themselves and how this is not pleasing to God.
I am hoping to finish a Part 2 tomorrow on how we can get our children involved in learning how to recognize materialism and how they can overcome it with our help.

3 comments:

Mrs. Sprinkles said...

Great post--thanks for this. I, too, am guilty.

Terry @ Breathing Grace said...

You probably already know this by now, but I linked to this post today. Good stuff!!

A Marriage After His Heart said...

thanks terry!